Emily Shares…….

how to PIONEER CHANGE today!

Category: Change of Career

I love all things business. I love learning business, I love studying business, I love teaching business. This page is for those who can relate and who may be thinking of making a change in their career or in their business!

Balancing your life’s “checkbook”

“It’s good to have money in the bank, but after you balance your checkbook, be sure to balance your LIFE. Take account of the deposits and withdrawals from your joy, family, and health. Take time today to make any necessary adjustments in case of overdraft.” Misty Lown of More Than Just Great Dancing TM.

 

These are some very powerful words.  Think about it.  What are you depositing and what are you withdrawing from all three of those areas.  Are they equal???  I am reminded of a message we received at Community Christian Church where our teaching pastor BT Norman talked about money robbing you of your joy.  If you let money control your life, it will consume your life.  It will rob the joy right out from underneath you if you do not have a healthy relationship with it.  I know firsthand this is very hard to do.  I have been at a lot of different spectrums when it comes to money and any time I am focused on that and not on God, evil prevails.  I always remind myself that you cannot serve both money and God and none of it is mine anyways, it is all His.  The best way we have a healthy relationship with money is through a budget.  My husband, Brian does all of the nitty gritty work of keeping us on task but it has helped us tremendously and without that we never would have been able to purchase this land and fulfill God’s will.  So I tell you it is worth the time and research to come up with a good budget plan that works with your family and help put that joy back into your life.

Speaking of family what deposits and withdrawals are you making from your family.  Are you depositing your time, your talents, and your resources into the ones you love or are you taking their time, their talents and their resources?  It is a good honest question to ask yourself.  For me, I am working on depositing all three things but find it very difficult to do at times and often feel pulled in different directions.  This is where I usually need to stop and ask myself, what is the most important thing that I can do to invest in the lives of my family.  This always helps bring me back to what is important and sets my priorities in line.  As far as withdrawing from family, I feel like with the launch of YPAC we will be asking a lot of our family.  We will be asking for their time and their talents to help us build the very best center that we can.  It is my hope and my prayer that I can continue to deposit as I withdrawal from them.

When it comes to health, I have overdrafted one too many times.  I will admit I am not the best person when it comes to taking care of me.  I know what I need to do, but doing it is another issue.  I drink way to much diet coke and not enough water, I don’t get a lot of sleep, I probably don’t eat as much as I need to right now while I am nursing our 3 month old, I haven’t stretched in who knows how long therefore, injuring my hip and back and there are times when I can enjoy a good party a little too much.  I recently went to the doctor after having not been to one in over 2 years and found out that my vitamin D is extremely low.  My number is a 15 and they like to see it at a 40 at least.  This was an eye opener that things need to change.  Having thought about each area of my life, I realized this is the one that is the worst.  So I have made a decision to take control of it little by little.  I will start my personal training today at the gym, start to cook a little healthier, and go to bed at a decent time, take my vitamins, drink more water and in general just take care of myself.  It is important.  God has given me a big job as a mother to my girls and the director of a new business and I need to be healthy in order to do both well.

So take a minute and reflect.  Is your “checkbook” of life balanced?  In what areas do you need to deposit more so you don’t overdraft?  This was a very revealing blog for me.

Thanks to Misty Lown for making me think!

Emily

Saturday’s Snip-It 10-5-2012

Saturdays are family days around the Weber house so I have decided to make the blog for Saturdays short, sweet and reflective. Each week I will answer the same set of questions in hopes to gain insight.

Tony Robbins once said: “Questions provide the key to unlocking our unlimited potential. Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”

  1. What new resources did you discover this week? I got into the new managment site for More Than Just Great Dancing which is an affiliate program for dance studios. We are a full arts center and this is going to help our dance department be a leading force in positive education in our community.
  2. What beautiful experiences did you share with your family this week? I heard my baby girl pray out loud for the very first time.
  3. What lessons did you learn from your failures? I fail on a daily basis as a mommy but my little girl forgives me everytime she hugs and kisses me. It is the love that I show her that she will remember.
  4. What is the most influential thing you have read this week? This week I would say it was The Books of the Bible, the community bible experience. I am loving it!
  5. What were you able to give? My friendship
  6. Who did you meet and add to your network? Dr. Kwak and she is amazing. Wonderful family physican.
  7. What projects did you start/finish this week? We started getting quotes for the build out on the building. It is exciting!
  8. What did you do to live a healthier life? I will start personal training on monday!
  9. What referrals have you given and why? I will definately be referring Dr. Kwak because she was so great!!
  10. Who has given you the most “warm fuzzies” and how do you plan on saying thank you? Misty Lown, the owner of More Than Just Great Dancing affliated studios program. I am not sure exactly how I am going to thank her but I will find a way!
  11. What risks did you take and what did you learn from them? I spoke up for something I believed in on facebook. I learned that people are much bigger behind their computers than they are when confronted.
  12. What are you doing to draw closer to God?
  13. What was the best thing you did for your children?
  14. What was the best thing you did for your husband this week? Complimented him on being an amazing husband. He is a words of affirmation kind of guy and I always want to make sure is love tank is full!
  15. Name the name of a person you met for the very first time this week. Melissa Kwak….man Dr. Kwak got 3 plugs in this post!

A letter for dance parents

Hi Parents!

I am so excited to share this blog with you! Thank you for taking the time to read this. I have gathered some great tips and insights regarding dance education from some of the nation’s best and brightest dance educators. Enjoy!   Your partner in education, Emily.

Last week when I decided to write this blog I polled as many friends in the business as I could and asked what they thought the most important thing a dance parent should know is.  I was thrilled with the responses and am so thankful that the world of dance is one of support and encouragement.  The responses I received were from all areas of the United States as well as all levels.  Some are competition directors, studio owners, college professors and several dance instructors.

Nicole a dance instructor from the Chicago land area writes this to a dance parent looking for a place to enroll their child, “Do your homework…….When choosing a studio look for a loving, caring and comfortable environment that fosters education, growth and opportunity. A studio with well trained educators who have a passion to continue to learn and grow. A studio whose philosophy you trust and agree with. Look for a place that has the best interest of the children at heart. When you find that place then trust your teachers. All children dance, hear, see, think and comprehend differently, and trust that no matter what you think you see when you are looking through the window that they know what they are doing. If you can do that, then you know you’re in the right place.”

I think she touches on very important topics.  The most important word she says is the word TRUST.  My friends Jodi from the east coast, Jen from the west coast, and Melissa from the Midwest all said the same thing.  Between the three of them they stressed that parents should trust their dance teachers and let their children grow and learn in a healthy environment.  They also expressed that each one of them, as teachers, always has the best interest for each individual child.

Kim and Donna both studio owners in the Midwest expressed that parents should know that each dancer develops and learns differently.  Even if taught the exact same skill at the exact same time no two dancers will achieve it exactly the same way. I agree with them. It is our job as parents to support our children and encourage them exactly where they are at in their journey as a dancer.  This will ensure a love for dance long after they are finished with lessons.

My friend Lisa from college teaches on the east coast and she gave me a perspective for parents of students who are looking to become professional.  She says this, “I think parents need to know that if their child is serious about dance then it is a big time commitment and they must be willing to give up other activities at a certain point in order to truly progress to a level where they can become professionals. Also it’s so important to train properly and take care of injuries in s timely manner with care specific to a dancer’s body to give them the chance to become professional if they wish.”  Now obviously this is not geared toward the parents of toddlers or of recreational students.  I think she makes a great point.  I personally was one of these students who chose to commit my time to my passion.  I have never once regretted this decision.  I knew that if I were to do this as a career that I must spend my time, energy and focus on my craft so to speak. I also give my mom a lot of credit because she always trusted my dance teacher, she always encouraged me, and most important she never compared me to the other girls.  This was EXTREMELY important for my growth and is exactly why I am still dancing and teaching to this day 29 years later.

My dance teacher Pam from the Midwest has ran her business for 20 years now.  She has two locations and has inspired thousands and thousands of lives, and she believes all parents want to know that their child will be treated fairly, that they will be in a safe-environment, that their child will receive personal attention and that they will receive good customer service.  Yes parents, these are four extremely important things to look for.

My next responder is a convention/competition owner and director.  He has over 50 years of teaching experience to over 150,000 students.  Michael McBain says, “Dance parents should choose their dance teacher for the love and caring attitude the teacher gives to the students not for the competitive aspect of the studio.”  This is what it is all about.

My final responder is an incredibly inspiring woman who is on the up and up of setting the highest of standards when it comes to running a positive, motivating dance studio.  Her name is Misty Lown and she is the owner of Misty’s Dance Unlimited, More Than Just Great Dancing an affiliate program for studio owners, Midwest Dance Connection a dance competition, and is the founder of A Chance To Dance foundation among being a teacher, writer, speaker, wife and mother of five.  I have the utmost respect for her and when she took the time to respond to my poll I was humbled.  Misty says, “1. The number one thing parents should know when considering competitive dance is “What is the goal of the program?” There are many possible outcomes/goals for involvement with competitive dance. Programs range from very family friendly and school activity-flexible to very elite and demanding. Parents should be sure that they are choosing a program that aligns with their values. 2. The number one thing parents should know when enrolling their child in dance is the philosophy of the school. Again this is a matter of choosing a program that aligns with their values. At my school we value quality curriculum, trained teacher, professional management and community involvement. We tend to attract families that value organization, structure, results, character education, and community service.”

I would like to thank you for reading.  I know it was long but it is something that I am passionate about so I wanted to make sure that I included these very important responses.  For me, I believe one of the most important aspects of your child’s training starts with communication.  In my opinion, the only way to communicate is by being open and honest.  Teachers need to listen to the concerns of the parents and the parents then in return need to listen to the suggestions and expertise of the teacher.  By doing so you are working together in enhancing the overall experience for everyone involved especially for the most important person involved…the student.

Loving the job God gave me,

Emily

Oil Rubbed Bronze Spray Paint

When we started the renovation project we knew that we did not have a lot of money to spend.  We are “all in” so to speak having bought this property all the while still waiting for our house in Morris to sell.  So we did everything we could to save on things that were not necessities.  I am sure you have all heard of Pinterest by now and if you have not you need to, but I will give you this warning first, caution if you have any sort of addictive personality.  It sucks you in and won’t spit you out for hours.  I have lost time pinteresting.  Well one “repin” I had been an oil rubbed bronze spray paint.  I decided instead of buying all new doorknobs and hinges I would spray paint them.  The doorknobs and hinges turned into the kitchen track lighting, a candle holder, light fixtures and the well pump.  See that is where the addictive personality kicks in again.  Brian and I laughed and he said before long I would have everything spray painted oil rubbed bronze…he was only half-joking.

Well today I went downstairs to do the laundry as I do several times a day and noticed the basement door knob is rubbing off and again my “analogy loving” mind got to thinking.  It has rubbed off because I use it the most.  Then I started thinking about people and how they rub off on each other when in contact a lot.  Have you ever been with someone who is really positive and encouraging and you walk away feeling like you can conquer the world?  Or vise versa have you have been around someone who is always complaining and looking at the glass half empty and walk away feeling down in the dumps.  The people you surround yourself with have a huge impact on you.  So I got to thinking about the people I am in contact with day-to-day and what kind of message I am rubbing off.  There are definitely some areas I need to grow in but the important part is I know I am living out God’s will for my life.  My ongoing prayer is that God uses me in a powerful way to impact the lives that He has put in my path.  So stop and think.  What message are you rubbing off to the people in your life.  Is it a positive one?  Maybe it is not, maybe you are going through a tough season in your life and you feel as though there isn’t a lot to be positive about.  It’s ok.  I hope you will find comfort in the fact that God knows exactly where you are at and it is ok to be exactly where you are at.  Trusting Him can be hard but He will see you through it.

Now I must go check the other door knobs…If I’m going to spray one might as well spray the others.

Emily

Our Story

Three years ago Brian and I both felt very strongly that He was commissioning us to move to Yorkville, Illinois.  We were not exactly sure as to why this area, with the exception that Brian worked here.  We looked at houses up here that year and the following year and always came back to ours thinking, “We just can’t leave the house we are in.”  Well last year was different.  We heard God remind us that it was just a house, yes a beautiful one but something material.  We knew there were bigger and greater things for our life beyond a Victorian home.  We made the decision to move.  It was then that I made a commitment to really listen for God’s direction and exactly where He would like us to grow individually and as a family.

At the time we were attending our church, Community Christian at its Shorewood location.  We were in a series called “The Ladder” which spoke of growing in generosity.  Brian and I were both so moved and knew this was the exact area in which God was working on us and we knew it would be through our gifts and talents as well as our time and resources.  We told our pastor John on a Tuesday and our family on Thursday of that same week, where God was leading us.  That very same Thursday we found out we were pregnant again with Haven Amelia. Our babies are 21 months apart and 20 years apart from our Nikki.  It was at this time that He confirmed that I needed to make another life change, a change to be a full time stay at home mom.  I believe this is my most important job and always will be.

We know that each of our daughters is a gift from God each in their own way.  Nikki has taught us unconditional love, what it means to be a family and laughter when there were days I could barely smile.  With Brinlee we were reminded that God is in control and His timing is perfect, and that He can make miracles happen.  Haven is gift for listening, following, and sharing God’s work with others and absolute peace.  I am very humble that God has entrusted me to guide these beautiful girls!

I tell you about my kids because they are a huge part of this story.  It is important to Brian and me that we are involved in the community where we and our kids will “do life.”  This is where Yorkville really became home.  We always thought that we would find a house, move and that our transition to our CCC Yorkville campus would be the last one, but on the last day of “The Ladder” series Brian and I both walked out talking about how we felt God tell us it needed to be the first transition.  Wow did He speak loud and clear with that one and for good reason.  We started coming up to the Yorkville campus a little gun shy but were instantly comforted.  Brian and I were instantly connected with family after family who seemed to either need us or we needed them.  We started sharing again what God was doing in our life and our plan to move here and the types of places we were looking at living.  We put 3 offers in on 3 different places and each one fell through for some reason or another.  I was pregnant, impatient, and frustrated, not a fun combination for my husband.  I kept wondering why it wasn’t easy if God wanted us to be here.  Then my answers came with what we now call “The Property” and future home of the Yorkville Performing Arts Center (YPAC).

We bought 6 acres with a house, 2 pole buildings, a parking lot, a stable and pasture……hence the name “The Property.”  We renovated the ENTIRE house, had a baby, and moved in just 21 days. (That’s a whole other blog to come)  You ask how?!?!?  We believe so strongly that God’s hands guided this project each and every day giving us days of rest when we needed, provided the perfect people for the perfect jobs to make things go quicker, gave us encouragement on days we were feeling discouraged, and has continued to provide each and every day.  We are so blessed and so thankful and very truly could not have done this without the people God put in our lives many of whom came from our early transition to Yorkville CCC.

I believe so strongly that there is a season to each part of life and we are currently in a season of change.  We remind ourselves and each other almost daily to enjoy the process.  There are so many times in life that you can think, “I’ll just be happy when we get to this next part.”  I have to stop myself often, look around and remember that I am happy now, right where we are at in the midst of a lot of change.  My hope and prayer is that we can be a blessing to the community of Yorkville and Kendall county through YPAC and that our children and our community’s children  will learn and grow in an environment that was created because God whispered and He chose to give me the ears to hear Him.

Still listening,

Emily

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