If you read my blog “The Toolbox” you read about the book by Gary Chapman called, “The 5 Love Languages.” This book introduces the languages and describes each one helping you identify which one is your own. The five love languages are: Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch, and Receiving Gifts. My love language is quality time and my “Love Tank” as Chapman calls it is full when I have am getting this special time with the people in my life. Anymore quality time with people is becoming harder and harder to come by. Schedules are jam-packed with work, activities, appointments and trips. So I ask myself how are you going to keep your “love tank” full with all of these things competing for your time. My solution is a mix between being organized and planning and being flexible and spontaneous.
If you didn’t know I am slightly, and I use that term loosely, OCD. This can be my greatest asset and also my biggest weakness. It is funny how that works isnt’ it. Well anyways, I like to schedule things on the calendar and plan in advance and this is one way I get quality time with friends and family. Having things on the calendar gives you an excitement and something to look forward to. I think that is important. Since moving, Brian and I have also been a little more spontaneous and invited people over last-minute and it has always worked out great. Sometimes being flexible with your schedule can turn into the best of times because it is unexpected and usually uninhibited!
No matter how busy our schedules can be it is absolutely necessary for us to take the time and invest in the lives of the people around us. So my question for you is do you know your own love language? Do you know your spouses, children’s, boyfriend/girlfriend, best friend, nieces or nephews, brothers and sisters and anyone else in your life? If you do, what are doing to fill their love tank. If you don’t I would love for you to find out. You won’t regret it.
I’m off to spend some quality time with my MIL, SIL, and our kids,